Our parents in most cases are all we have, once they are gone we are all alone in this world and we will miss them remembering the good moments and the painful ones. Only when you become a parent yourself you realize the amount of care and commitment it takes and the next is the hardest, realizing all the things you have done to hurt your parents. At times maybe you disrespected your parent or maybe gave him attitude. Other times you left him, maybe when he needed your help and you weren’t there, a lot can happen in this cruel and open world of ours.
Some of us perhaps just had one parent, a mother. Which we as teenagers use to mistreat often and it’s those most painful memories you could ever think of seeing my mother cry over something stupid I did or said or simply made her worry. Some of these memories cannot be wiped out and they will hurt daily when our mom is gone. Some of us have been warned, our parents tell us in times that we will remember our actions especially those which caused them pain. Do not get me wrong our parents were not saying it to be mean or to hurt us they were simply saying it to save us from more pain.
“The way you treat your parents today, the way your friends will treat them tomorrow”
I wish our “friends” were more passionate about helping our parents it definitely reflects the treatment they received from us when we were teenagers trying to accumulate those friends. Just to lose them after, to life, to marriage, to circumstance. Real friends are the ones who will come just because they have a value in you and it can happen over time. What makes you a better friend is if you forgive them when they do. What makes you a smarter friend is when you discover the real reason they “your friends” are looking for you, perhaps your mind, perhaps your heart.
“When you accept with serenity that certain things cannot be changed and you have the courage to change the things which should be changed; then scientifically you should have the wisdom to distinguish the one from another”
We can read each other very easily, therefore clarity is the most essential factor in all friendly communications. Especially when talking to your friends, clarity resolves unsolved puzzles pieced in your mind over time.
Our only and the best friend of all is our parents and some people only have one. The one who raised you and gave you what you needed to stand 18. Some of our single parents gave us everything, they gave us their paychecks by buying us clothes and books and making sure we eat. They spent their time taking us to places. My mom practically spent her new bed and mattress money on me only to buy me a computer when I was 17 because everyone had one and I was disconnected. Computers were expensive in my town to put it this way and my mother decided to give up her own comfortability to help me to be who I am today.
How freaking lucky we are, we are chasing g-ds, idolizing millionaires and movie stars. When our creators, our g-ds are right within our reach or at least within your reach because my parents are not even close.
I never watched that Marko cartoon of a person searching for his mother, although sometimes it feels like we always do. Because by the time our parents are gone, as far as I got to witness we never stop searching for them. Inside. Your g-d is in your living room, or perhaps in your city, or perhaps in your country. No matter where your parents are you can still reach them and maybe you will change all of the horrible things that you think you have done which are nothing compared to what you mean to them.